By: Greg Douglas, LMHC
Women: Top 3 Complaints
After years of working with couples I have compiled my Top 3 Complaints for each sex. This week we look at the top 3 complaints women in relationships have.
Complaint #1: Lack of Emotional Closeness
“I just have no idea what is going on with him.” “He just keeps shutting me out and I don’t know how to get through to him.”
Women often judge the quality of their relationships on the level of emotional closeness they feel. They do this with their partners, friends, family, everyone. If your woman doesn’t feel emotionally connected to you, she won’t feel safe with you.
Countless men have trouble seeing a need to be emotionally close, and others wouldn’t know what emotional connection was if it smacked them in the face. Emotional closeness is critically important in relationships and each gender needs to place this as a high priority.
Complaint #2: Lack of Support
Many women take on the majority of the household duties including childcare, shopping, cleaning, cooking, etc. Women also take on the tasks of family scheduler, social coordinator, and head chauffer. All of this mental energy spent on all of these areas takes a toll.
While it may be unrealistic to split all duties 50/50, often women end up doing more than their fair share of the domestic work. This often results in women feeling unsupported and resentment can easily grow.
Men, keep in mind that your duties are not over once you leave the office. Pay attention to your partner and their workload. Help in any way you can and let your female partner know just how much you appreciate all their hard work. It really does make a difference!
Complaint #3: Not Feeling Loved/Like a Priority
“The only time he shows me any affection is when he is ready to have sex!” “He just expects me to be ready at the drop of a hat, and it doesn’t work that way for me!”
Women are consistently looking to see how their partner is treating them. Are they showing affection, making the relationship a priority, and sending the message that they are loved and cared for? Women notice this stuff, and men need to clue themselves in before it’s too late.
The more you show your partner how much you love them, the more likely they are to give you more of what you want. Pretty simple right? Make it a point to show your female partner affection with no intent to be sexual. Take some time to put together a date night or small outing that lets them know you care. This investment will pay huge dividends!
How Douglas Counseling Can Help
Douglas Counseling specializes in helping couples build solid relationships. If you have any of the complaints listed above, and need help getting your point across, couples counseling could make a huge difference. Douglas Counseling helps couples to gain understanding, shift mindsets, and learn new skills to connect.
If you would like more information or would like to schedule a free consultation, please call (561) 207-1903 and visit us online at www.DouglasCounseling.com.
