Individual and Couples Therapist in Tigard, OR

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Couples Counseling in Tigard, OR

Today’s couples in Tigard face many of the same challenges couples are facing all over the country. Many couples feel relieved when they learn they are not alone and many people are dealing with similar struggles. The most successful couples are the ones that can be honest with themselves and see the need for outside help. These couples look for counseling to provide them with a new understanding of their current issues, new insights and mindsets, new skills, and ultimately a new process to deal with those challenges.

Couples counseling begins with your therapist working to help you understand your current missteps and what part each person plays in the current dynamic. Couples counseling gives couples the space to learn new ways of relating as your therapist helps you to try out new skills and build a new process that really works.

Schedule your FREE consultation today! Call (503) 388-6611 or get in touch online here.

Common Problems Couples Are Facing Today

Common issues for couples in Tigard include:

• Difficulty communicating
• A lack of emotional or physical intimacy
• Feeling alone in the relationship
• Not being heard and understood
• Trust issues
• Conflict over opposing beliefs or perspectives

How Couples Therapy Can Help

Couples therapy addresses a wide range of issues. Areas couples counseling often deals with includes the following:

• Showing couples their pattern – Most couples become stuck in a pattern of conflict surrounding their unmet needs. Couples counseling helps couples to recognize these patterns and step out of their current conflict while learning a better process.
• Working with expectations and assumptions – Couples aren’t always so clear on what they are looking for from their partner. Couples counseling can help each partner clarify expectations and map out a better plan to get their needs met.
• Increasing intimacy – Couples often struggle with a lack of physical or emotional intimacy, yet often don’t understand what drove them apart. Couples counseling provides answers to couples about why they drifted apart and teaches partners how to open up and allow for more intimacy.
• Improving safety and building trust – Couples counseling often deals with healing from a betrayal. Counseling can help you start to create a sense of safety and security that provides the building blocks needed to build back trust.
• Gaining clarity – Couples today face new challenges including what direction they’d like their lives to take. More options are good, but it also means there are more possibilities to sift through and decision making is often difficult. Counseling can help couples re-evaluate their values and priorities to shed light on how to make difficult life decisions.

Individual Therapy for Men in Tigard Oregon

Men, have you struggled for a while on your own hoping to find solutions but coming up empty? Maybe your partner as suggested therapy but you’ve thought therapy is for people who can’t “solve their own problems.” Individual therapy for men is designed for men who think just like this. Most of us have tried to make changes and our intent is usually in the right place. The problem is that we haven’t identified the core issues and haven’t found suitable solutions. This is where therapy for men comes in.

Individual therapy for men provides a place for men to speak out about their struggles, gain understanding of the core issues, and find solutions. If you want real change and would like to work with therapists that have helped hundreds of men find solutions, please contact us. We can help. Please call (503) 388-6611 or get in touch online to schedule your FREE consultation.

Common Issues Addressed in Individual Therapy

• Issues with Self-Esteem: Men often struggle with self-esteem on some level and these issues usually show up in the form of isolation, anger, or both. Working to improve self-esteem is often a core focus in individual therapy for men.
• Anger issues: For many men anger is the only emotion they are willing to show. Your therapist will help you understand what drives the anger and teaches you new ways to speak out. Individual counseling for men helps men understand why their anger shows up and gives them new outlets and methods for dealing with and speaking out about their feelings.
• Challenges with Parenting: Most men grew up with a less-than-ideal role model for a parent. We believe most men want to do a better job than their fathers did, but just don’t know how. Counseling can help men learn the tools needed to be a better parent.
• Work-life balance: Men often focus their attention on work and struggle to show up in their homes and relationships the way their partners and kids would want. Individual counseling can help to break this pattern by giving men a new way of looking at their relationships and finding a balance with time and efforts at work versus home.
• Communication: Men are often not taught how to communicate in effective ways. We do the best we know how, but it often falls short of our partner’s expectations. Individual therapy for men can teach you how to communicate your thoughts, feelings, and needs in a way that will work better for you and those around you.

Benefits of Individual Therapy

Benefits of individual therapy can include:

• Managing Emotions – learning how to understand and manage feelings
• Improving Self-Esteem – creating a better relationship with yourself and others
• Better Communication – learning to share your inner experience
• Healthy Boundaries – lessening stress and unburdening yourself
• Developing Empathy – gaining understanding and compassion for others
• Improved and More Stable Mood – fewer highs and lows to deal with

Our Approach to Therapy

Douglas Counseling seeks to meet each individual or couple where they are without judgement. We seek to understand the challenges being faced and what is keeping the person or couple stuck. Our therapists at Douglas Counseling collaborate with the client to build a detailed plan to address the current issues and make strides towards finding solutions.

What to Expect

Your first therapy session will include 3 main phases. First, your therapist will learn more about you and your background. Your therapist will ask questions to learn more about personal history, current struggles, and what you have done to work on them yourself. Next your therapist will help you to explore what you would want to happen at the end of the counseling process. Your goals will be processed, and you and your therapist will gain clarity on what you consider a successful outcome. At the end of your therapy session your therapist will give you feedback on why you are getting/staying stuck and will propose a plan to help you work towards successful completion of your goals. Your therapist will make recommendations including what will be worked on, how often you should attend sessions, and their estimation of what a course of therapy entails.

Our approach at Douglas Counseling is always to collaborate with the client. The client’s input and insights are critical to putting together a successful plan for therapy. At Douglas Counseling you are not a passive bystander with therapy but rather are at the heart of the healing process.

Contact us today to schedule your FREE consultation. Please call (503) 388-6611 or get in touch online here.

Client Testimonials and Success Stories

Jeff and Lindsey: This couple came to counseling to deal with the aftermath of a recent betrayal. Both partners were struggling in their relationship, and each had questions about whether they wanted to stay and work on things or move on. After working with this couple for several weeks we started to find some traction and ultimately, they chose to stay together. Here is what they had to say at the last session of their couples therapy. “We weren’t sure if our relationship could even be saved when we started, but little by little we put the pieces in place to understand why we had drifted.” “Counseling was actually really eye-opening as neither of us truly understood why the other was so unhappy in the marriage.” “Having a therapist to guide us through the process was huge.” “I don’t think we could have made this type of progress without someone there to keep us on track and give us the skills we need to be happy with each other again.”

Frank: This individual came to counseling looking to better understand himself. He had dealt with an unhappy partner for many years and had finally taken her advice to get help. Frank learned about why he had avoided communicating with his partner for many years. He saw that his way of operating with his wife was all about keeping himself protected and avoiding conflict. The problem was that his methods were actually increasing conflict and his wife was at her wits end. Here is what Frank had to say about his counseling experience: “I was skeptical for sure.” “From the first session I could tell that the therapist had a good sense of what was keeping me stuck.” “We worked on practical skills that I’ve been using for the last few months, and it has made a big difference in my relationship.” “Once I learned how to protect myself without avoiding things really turned around.” “I’m happy I made the call and committed to the therapy.”

Bernard and Deborah S. from Tigard, OR: Deborah contacted our office and set up an appointment saying it was “a last-ditch effort” to see if the couple could stay together. The couple had not been in a healthy place for years and their arguments were happening on a daily basis. Both partners noted they needed change soon or they would look at separating.

This couple’s therapist helped them to see that their arguments were stemming from unmet needs. Deborah needed more attention, closeness, and a sense that Bernard “cares about me.” Bernard needed more respect, acceptance, and intimacy in his relationship. The couple was shown how their unhealthy ways of communicating with each other didn’t address the unmet needs that were at the heart of their conflict.

This couple attended 14 sessions and learned skills that would prove to be invaluable in helping to save their relationship. Deborah learned how to ask for more closeness and connection in an open, honest and vulnerable way. Bernard learned how to avoid feeling hurt when Deborah approached him and stayed engaged and was able to meet more of his partner’s needs. At the end of therapy both partners agreed that they wanted to stay together and continue working on their relationship as they hadn’t argued in several weeks and felt much more solid about their bond.

Stanley P. from Tigard, OR: Stanley came in for individual counseling for men’s issues citing problems with procrastination and alcohol use. Early on in therapy Stanley spoke about his difficult relationship with his father noting “nothing I ever did was good enough for him.”

Stanley learned that his relationship with his father led him to be “shame-based” feeling disempowered and not good enough in many areas of life. Stanley’s therapist helped him see that his procrastination and alcohol use was really a way for Stanley to avoid feeling a sense of shame. The more he felt not good enough the more he would avoid doing things and the more he would drink.

This insight proved helpful and also led Stanley to work on adopting a new way of looking at self-esteem. He was able to see the worth and value that was always within him, but not recognized by those around him. Stanley gained more confidence as the weeks went on and at the end of his therapy, he had made great strides in taking on projects and had hardly drank in the last month.

Bridget S. from Tigard, OR: Bridget called our office and reported that she was feeling down on herself and felt like a passenger in her own life. Bridget noted that she hadn’t been able to find a long-term relationship that she so desperately wanted and was starting to wonder “if I am the problem.”

Bridget’s therapist quickly helped her identify that her self-esteem was not in a good place, and actually had always been low. Bridget talked about how she never received acceptance growing up and felt like her critical mother played a large role in her constantly questioning herself. A huge part of Bridget’s work was learning how to empower herself from a shame-based position.

Bridget learned about what healthy self-esteem really is. She learned how to re-think her old ways of judging herself and became much more accepting and approving of herself. The work Bridget did in her therapy will set her up for success no matter what problems she faces in the future. With a new and more positive view of herself Bridget is able to approach life from a totally different and healthier place.

FAQs

Where are you located?

Douglas Counseling is Located in Lake Oswego in the Lake Grove area. The address is 16325 Boones Ferry Rd. Suite 209, Lake Oswego OR, 97035.

What are your hours?

Our Hours are Monday – Friday 9am to 7pm

How many sessions will I need to attend?

The number of sessions needed varies and will be discussed with you by your therapist as part of your initial appointment. Most couples can expect a full course of therapy to last about 12 sessions. Individuals can usually expect to meet between 10-12 meetings.

How much do the sessions cost?

The cost depends on the therapist you work with.

Licensed therapist at the associate level: The initial 90-minute session cost is $220 and ongoing 60-minute sessions cost $180.

Licensed therapist at the owner level: The initial 90-minute session cost of $275 and ongoing 60-minute sessions cost $225.

Do you take insurance?

We do not directly accept insurance. Most insurance companies will not reimburse for couples counseling as they don’t consider it a “medical necessity.” Individuals with “out of network” benefits for counseling are welcomed to submit a statement that Douglas Counseling can provide to be reimbursed for a portion of the therapy costs.

What’s the best way to schedule an appointment?

The best way to schedule a session is to call the Douglas Counseling office directly at (503) 388-6611. You can schedule a session or set up a free consultation with one of our therapists.

Do you provide virtual appointments?

Yes, Douglas Counseling provides virtual/online appointments to all clients residing in Oregon. We use a secure telehealth platform for our online sessions.

About Tigard, OR

Tigard is located in Washington County, Oregon. The population was 55,762 as of 2022, making it the 12th most populous city in Oregon. Tigard’s population makes it the 12^th most populous city in Oregon. The city was incorporated in 1961, is located south of Beaverton and north of Tualatin, and is part of the Portland metropolitan area.

Tigard has a large number of families that live in the area due to highly rated public schools, nearby activities, and proximity to the greater Portland metro area. Tigard residents find themselves dealing with many of the stresses of modern couples and family including financial stress, home/work life balance, parenting, and finding time to nurture their relationship.

Notable neighborhoods in Tigard include: Bull Mountain, Metzger, Durham and King City. Some of the most important landmarks include Washington Square Mall, Bridgeport Village, Cook Park, Downton Tigard.

The Douglas Counseling Office is located just west of Tigard in the town of Lake Oswego. Our office is a 10-15-minute drive for most Tigard residents.

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