Individual and Couples Therapist in Tualatin, OR

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Couples Counseling in Tualatin, OR

Couples counseling begins with your therapist working to help you understand the current moves being made and how these moves impact each partner. Couples counseling provides the space to learn new ways of relating. Your couples therapist in Tualatin is there to help you to try out new skills and develop a new process that works.

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Common Problems Couples Are Facing Today

Common issues for couples in Tualatin include:

• Communication issues
• Lacking emotional and physical intimacy
• Dealing with a betrayal
• Feeling unheard by their partner
• Trust issues
• Stage of life challenges
• Opposing parenting styles

How Couples Therapy Can Help

Couples therapy addresses a wide range of issues. Areas couples counseling often deals with includes the following:

• Educating couples on their pattern – Many couples become stuck in a pattern of communicating when their needs are unmet. Couples counseling builds recognition these patterns and teaches couples a better process.
• Dealing with expectations – Couples almost always have expectations for their partner, yet not all of us make these expectations clear. Couples counseling helps each partner clarify expectations and builds out a plan to get their needs met more consistently.
• Increasing intimacy – Couples often struggle with a lack of physical or emotional intimacy. Far too many couples aren’t sure what is keeping them apart and don’t know how to make changes. Couples counseling shows partners why they have drifted apart and teaches partners how to close the gap and have a more connected bond.
• Improving safety and building trust – The issues a couple faces often is traced back to one or both partners bot feeling a sense of safety and security in their relationship. Couples counseling gives couples a pathway to build safety and security.
• Finding clarity – Couples today have more options than ever before. Having these options is great for choice, but often leaves partners unsure about what they should do. Couples counseling can aid in helping couples gain clarity and move forward with more clarity.

Individual Therapy for Men in Tualatin, OR

Men, have you felt the need for change but haven’t figured out how to make that happen? Your partner might have suggested therapy but you’ve always thought therapy is for people who can’t figure things out on their own. Individual therapy for men is designed for men just like you. Most of us have good intentions and have probably even tried to make changes the best we know how. The problem is usually that we haven’t figured out the core issues and don’t know how to move forward with solutions. This is where individual therapy for men comes in.

Individual therapy for men provides a place for men to report on their struggles, gain insights about core issues, and find new solutions. If you want real change and would like to work with therapists that have helped hundreds of men find solutions, please contact us. We can help.

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Common Issues Addressed in Individual Therapy

• Self-Esteem Issues: Men don’t often see their self-esteem as an issue yet it often drives many of the behaviors that impact our partner. Anger issues, isolating, and spending long hours at work are all common signs that poor self-esteem could be an issue.
• Anger issues: For many men anger is the one emotion they feel capable of showing. Your individual therapist in Tualatin will help you understand what drives the anger and you’ll learn new methods for dealing with and speaking out about your feelings that underly your anger.
• Parenting Challenges: Many men grow up with a less-than-ideal role model for a parent. Many of us are doing a better job than our fathers, but still have unhappy partners with unmet needs. Individual therapy can help men learn what being a healthy and engaged parent truly looks like.
• Work-life balance: Men often focus much of their attention on work and fail to show up in their homes and relationships the way their partners and children would want. Individual counseling can help to break this pattern giving men a new way of looking at their relationships and finding a balance with all areas of life.
• Communication: Men are often socialized in ways that prevent healthy communication. We do the best we know how, but it falls short of other’s expectations. Individual therapy for men can teach you how to communicate your thoughts, feelings, and needs that allows for new levels of connection and closeness.

Benefits of Individual Therapy

Benefits of individual therapy can include:

• Managing emotions – how to acknowledge, think about, and deal with inner feelings
• Improving Self-Esteem – building a better relationship with yourself and others
• Improved Communication – learning how to speak openly and honestly
• Healthy boundaries – lessening stress and unburdening yourself
• Developing empathy – seeing and embracing the impact you have on others
• Improved and more stable mood – fewer highs and lows leads to a stable mood

Our Approach to Therapy

Douglas Counseling seeks to meet each individual or couple where they are without judgement. We seek to understand the challenges being faced and what is keeping the person or couple stuck. Our therapists at Douglas Counseling collaborates with the client to build a detailed plan to address the current issues and make strides towards finding solutions.

What to Expect

Your first therapy session will include 3 main phases. First, your therapist will learn more about you and your background. Your therapist will ask questions to learn more about personal history, current struggles, and what you have done to work on them yourself. Next your therapist will help you to explore what you would want to happen at the end of the counseling process. Your goals will be processed, and you and your therapist will gain clarity on what you consider a successful outcome. At the end of your therapy session your therapist will give you feedback on why you are getting/staying stuck and will propose a plan to help you work towards successful completion of your goals. Your therapist will make recommendations including what will be worked on, how often you should attend sessions, and their estimation of what a course of therapy entails.

Our approach at Douglas Counseling is always to collaborate with the client. The client’s input and insights are critical to putting together a successful plan for therapy. At Douglas Counseling you are not a passive bystander with therapy but rather are at the heart of the healing process.

Contact us today to schedule your FREE consultation. Please call (503) 388-6611 or get in touch online here.

Client Testimonials and Success Stories

Jake and Jessica: This Tualatin couple had been together for over 20 years and came to therapy to work on improving a relationship that had become more and more distant over the years. The couple was just moving into a new phase of life as their youngest child had just left to attend college. Both partners agreed that their relationship had taken a backseat to raising their kids and advancing their careers.

The couple attending counseling for a total of 5 months working on understanding the past mindsets and actions that led them further apart. The couple also learned about how each believed that their partner wasn’t interested in having a closer relationship, but the truth was both were desperately wanting things to change. Jessica had this to say at the final couples session: “I’m glad we finally looked for help and found it.” “I don’t think we would have been able to figure all of this out on our own and counseling showed us a whole new way to be together.” Jake noted: “I’d pretty much settled on the fact that we would just be distant, but now I’m not willing to accept that.” “Learning how to approach each other and actually being open and honest has made a huge different for us.”

Denny: This individual client had just moved into the Tualatin area after a recent break-up. Denny wanted to use counseling to learn more about why his latest relationship didn’t work out and specifically learn about what part he played. The therapy focused on Denny learning about how he had continued patterns that were learned in childhood where is father was very distant but would then explode in anger when challenged. Denny learned that he used distance and then anger as a way to keep others at arm’s length believing that he wasn’t a “good enough partner anyway.” Once this individual learned about how self-esteem and a lack of relational skills were the core issues, he began making strides towards a new life.

Denny’s therapy lasted for 3 months and he left counseling with a renewed sense of optimism for his next relationship and life in general. Denny is a great example of a client that has is heart in the right place, but just needed some guidance to put himself on a healthier path.

Vicky and Blake from Tualatin, OR: This couple reached out after the discovery of a recent betrayal. Both clients were still in shock and couldn’t believe they were dealing with infidelity.

Blake was able to learn the tools needed to make sense of what Vicky was telling him as finding meaning and making sense of a betrayal is central to healing. This couple’s therapist worked with them to build the skills needed to have the many difficult conversations that a couple healing from infidelity face.

Vicky and Blake attended a total of 18 sessions for a period of 8 months. At the end of their therapy this is what they had to say about the experience: Blake – “I was honestly not thinking I could come back from this.” “Our therapist was super helpful in showing me that there were many ways to view what Vicky did, and that really opened me up to reconciling.” Vicky noted, “I don’t think we could have had those difficult talks on our own.” “Working with our therapist was so eye-opening because we were making so many mistakes when we tried to talk on our own.”

Gavin A. from Tualatin, OR: Gavin entered therapy after a recent break-up that left him feeling hurt and pessimistic about his future chances of finding a long-term partner. This client had spent his 20s and most of his 30s building a successful business and had placed intimate relationships on the back burner.

Gavin’s work in therapy helped him see that his mindset and approach to recent relationships was not working. The client learned that he had become so anxious about being successful at finding a partner he would often come off as “needy” and “clingy” which sabotaged his relationships.

Gavin’s therapist helped him learn new mindsets including the idea of “pre-accepting the outcome” which freed him up to truly be himself without the fear of what would happen. Gavin finished his therapy reporting that he felt very confident heading back to the world of dating. He was ready to be accepting and enjoy the journey of connecting with others without the fear of how things would end.

Maggie J. from Tualatin, OR: Maggie started therapy to work on her relationship. She had asked her husband to join, but he declined saying that they could fix their own issues privately. Maggie spoke about feeling powerless in the relationship, constantly scrutinized by her partner, and worried that if things didn’t change, she wouldn’t be able to stay married.

Maggie was helped to understand a longstanding pattern of deferring to others. She grew up with a special needs sibling and learned early on that her parents had little capacity to meet her needs as well as her brother’s. Maggie continued this pattern of deferring to others in all of her adult relationships as well as in her current marriage. Maggie was helped to see what standing up for herself actually looked like. She learned how to speak out about her needs in a kind but assertive way.

As Maggie’s therapy was winding down, she reported that while some of her needs were still going unmet, there was a new sense of equality in her relationship that she had never felt before. Maggie learned the valuable lesson that being assertive doesn’t equal being mean. Her relationship with her husband and colleagues at work had all greatly improved.

FAQs

Where are you located?

Douglas Counseling is Located in Lake Oswego in the Lake Grove area. The address is 16325 Boones Ferry Rd. Suite 209, Lake Oswego OR, 97035

What are your hours?

Our Hours are Monday – Friday 9am to 7pm

How many sessions will I need to attend?

The number of sessions needed varies and will be discussed with you by your therapist as part of your initial appointment. Most couples can expect a full course of therapy to last about 12 sessions. Individuals can usually expect to meet between 10-12 meetings.

How much do the sessions cost?

The cost depends on the therapist you work with.

Licensed therapist at the associate level: The initial 90-minute session cost is $220 and ongoing 60-minute sessions cost $180.

Licensed therapist at the owner level: The initial 90-minute session cost of $275 and ongoing 60-minute sessions cost $225.

Do you take insurance?

We do not directly accept insurance. Most insurance companies will not reimburse for couples counseling as they don’t consider it a “medical necessity.” Individuals with “out of network” benefits for counseling are welcomed to submit a statement that Douglas Counseling can provide to be reimbursed for a portion of the therapy costs.

What’s the best way to schedule an appointment?

The best way to schedule a session is to call the Douglas Counseling office directly at (503) 388-6611. You can schedule a session or set up a free consultation with one of our therapists.

Do you provide virtual appointments?

Yes, Douglas Counseling provides virtual/online appointments to all clients residing in Oregon. We use a secure telehealth platform for our online sessions.

About Tualatin, OR

Tualatin is located primarily in Washington County, Oregon yet a small part of the city is located in Clackamas County. Tualatin is a southwestern suburb of the greater Portland Metropolitan area. The population was 27,797 as of 2022.

Tualatin is named for the Tualatin River which flows on the northern boundary of the city. Tualatin has a large number of families that live in the area due to highly rated public schools, numerous public parks, abundant outdoor recreation opportunities, and proximity to the greater Portland metro area. Tualatin residents deal with many of the same stressors of modern couples and family including financial stress, home/work life balance, parenting, and finding time to nurture their relationship.

Notable neighborhoods in Tualatin include: Downtown Tualatin, Hedges Creek, Fox Hill, Meridian Park, Ibach Park Estates, Stafford, and Victoria Woods.

The Douglas Counseling Office is located just north and east of Tualatin in the town of Lake Oswego. Our office is between a 5-15-minute drive for most Tualatin residents.  

 Important landmarks include the Bridgeport Village, Ibach Park, Downtown Tualatin, Browns Ferry Park.

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