Individual and Couples Therapist in Beaverton, OR

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Couples Counseling in Beaverton, OR

Couples in Beaverton face growing challenges from inside and outside of their relationship. Many couples in the area report feeling disconnected from their partner but lack the communication skills to close the gap. Many couples from Beaverton are young families that face the stressors of parenting, working, and struggle to find time for family and friends. These challenges are real and not easily dealt with. Facing challenges is normal, but not finding solutions leads to distance and often too much conflict in our relationships.

Couples therapy provides strategies to take on these issues and guides couples down a new path towards connection and closeness. Learning how to communicate is a key part of the therapy process and your couples therapist at Douglas Counseling will teach you new ways to approach your partner and get more of your needs met.

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Common Problems Couples Are Facing Today

Couples from Beaverton are facing many of the same issues as couples across the country. Modern life impacts relationships in many ways. Common issues for couples in Beaverton, OR include:

• Struggling to communicate
• Feeling alone or distant in their relationship
• Lacking affection and physical closeness
• Not being heard by your partner
• Losing trust
• Conflict with various issues like parenting, finances, and life balance

How Couples Therapy Can Help

Couples therapy is able to address an array of issues. Couples counseling is not limited to any particular set of issues and your therapist can develop a plan specifically tailored to your needs. Here are some of the most common areas we address with our couples:

• Dealing with the relationship pattern – Most couples come to use after finding themselves feeling stuck having the same arguments over and over. Couples therapy helps partners understand and then unravel these patters.
• Unclear expectations – Couples are often very unclear about what they are seeking which leaves their partner feeling helpless to deliver. Part of couples therapy helps partners become more explicit on what they want and teaches a new way of asking.
• Working to increase intimacy – Couples often lack the intimacy and closeness they desire whether physical or emotional. Couples who enter therapy learn skills to open up and place themselves in more vulnerable positions which allows for more intimacy to occur.
• Increasing trust and building safety in relationships – Couples counseling is the best way to deal with healing from a betrayal. Learning to rebuild trust and finding a new sense of safety is a critical part of the therapy process.
• Finding clarity – Couples don’t often know what direction the want their relationship and life to take. Our modern lives have granted us more opportunities than couples have ever had before, yet this leads to difficulty in decision making. Couples counseling can provide a new way of looking at options and helps couples gain clarity on values and priorities.

Individual Therapy for Men in Beaverton, OR

Men, have you been aware of issues you’d like to address but don’t know where to start?  Maybe you know others who have been to therapy but never thought about yourself as someone who would attend yourself. Individual therapy for men in Beaverton is designed just for men like you. Individual therapy provides a place to report on issues that keep you stuck, develop new insights that help you make sense of why these issues developed, and search out strategies to take them on.

Men who attend individual therapy report they learn new tactics to take on old problems. These men often talk about the benefits of having an outside perspective that sheds a new light and provides clarity in situations that previously seemed confusing.

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Common Issues Addressed in Individual Therapy

• Self-Esteem: Many men struggle with self-esteem which shows itself through anger, isolation, and acting out. Improving self-esteem is often a central focus in individual therapy for men.
• Anger Issues: Anger is often seen as the problem, but the deeper issue usually lies below the surface. Individual therapy will help men see that their anger almost always stems from a deeper place. Understanding why they feel angry and giving them new ways to think about issues often reduces anger and improves mood.
• Parenting Challenges: Many men missed out on a healthy role model for being a parent and feel lost in their roles as fathers. Counseling provides men the tools needed to be a loving and effective parent.
• Balancing Life: Men have trouble finding a balance that works for their partners and kids. Individual counseling helps men to gain clarity on their values, rework their priorities, and make decisions as more relational partners.
• Communication: Men lack the skills needed to interact in healthy ways with their partners, kids, and even co-workers. Most men do the best they know how, but their efforts fall short of what others desire. Individual therapy for men teaches new communication techniques and strategies that can transform the way you relate to those around you.

Benefits of Individual Therapy for Men

Benefits of individual therapy can include:

• Dealing with emotions – learning to better understand and manage feelings
• Improving Self-Esteem – no more shame or over-inflated egos
• Better Communication – sharing your inner experience in new ways
• Healthy boundaries – knowing what belongs to you and what doesn’t
• Developing empathy – building understanding and compassion
• Improved mood with more stability – fewer highs and lows

Individual Therapy for Women in Beaverton, OR

Women in today’s world are feeling more stress than ever before. Expectations to be a loving partner, loyal worker, and great parent are the standard for women. With all of these stressors lurking around each corner it’s no wonder that women are feeling the pressure.

Individual therapy for women focuses on women unpacking their challenges, finding support, learning about possible solutions, and making impactful changes. Our therapists are not only trained in helping women work with these stressors, they have lived experience in their own lives.

Women face challenges in many areas. While individual therapy can address a wide variety of potential issues, the following represent common areas of focus in therapy:

• Managing stress
• Dealing with relationship struggles
• Communication issues
• Attempting to live up to unrelenting expectations
• Boundary issues
• Low self-esteem
• Feeling isolated and alone
• Feeling like you are failing at everything

Benefits of Individual Therapy for Women

Individual therapy for women has many benefits for those who participate. The list below reflects many of the areas that see change at the end of therapy.

• Learning to manage stress in a healthy way – new strategies to find balance
• Improving relationships – work on relationships including partner, family, and friends
• Learning to communicate – gain the ability to speak out in assertive and clear ways
• Re-setting expectations – seeing and accepting that you can’t do it all
• Improve boundaries – learn to say no and reclaim you time and inner peace
• Self-esteem – improve your relationship with yourself
• Stepping out of old roles – map out your new life so it actually works for you

Our Approach

Douglas Counseling seeks to meet each individual or couple where they are without judgement. We seek to understand the challenges being faced and what is keeping the person or couple stuck. Our therapists at Douglas Counseling collaborate with the client to build a detailed plan to address the current issues and make strides towards finding solutions.

What to Expect During Your First Therapy Session

Your first therapy session will include 3 main phases. First, your therapist will learn more about you and your background. Your therapist will ask questions to learn more about personal history, current struggles, and what you have done to work on them yourself. Next, your therapist will help you to explore what you would want to happen at the end of the counseling process. Your goals will be processed, and you and your therapist will gain clarity on what you consider a successful outcome. At the end of your therapy session your therapist will give you feedback on why you are getting/staying stuck and will propose a plan to help you work towards successful completion of your goals. Your therapist will make recommendations including what will be worked on, how often you should attend sessions, and their estimation of what a course of therapy entails.

Our approach at Douglas Counseling is always to collaborate with the client. The client’s input and insights are critical to putting together a successful plan for therapy. At Douglas Counseling you are not a passive bystander with therapy but rather are at the heart of the healing process. Contact us today to schedule your FREE consultation. Call (503) 388-6611 or get in touch online.

Client Testimonials and Success Stories

Amy and Bennett:

This Beaverton couple came to therapy after recently having a new baby, purchasing a new home, and having Amy’s mom move in. The stress levels were at an all-time high and their communication had turned into criticism and blame, which left them feeling alone and helpless. With the help of their therapist the couple was able to unravel the underlying unmet needs that led each of them to turn on the other. This couple was guided to work on understanding what they were missing and to approach their partner from a place of ownership rather than blame.

At the end of their therapy the couple had this feedback: “We were really not in a good place when we started and I feel so much better about where things are now.” Amy said. Bennett noted, “I didn’t realize that what I was missing was really appreciation and approval.” “All of my attempts to bring up my feelings just led us into another argument, but now I feel like when can deal with just about anything that comes our way.” We love seeing a couple gain confidence to deal with their unmet needs in a new way and Amy and Bennett really put in the work.

Jacob:

Jacob had thought about attending counseling for several years but never took the step to get started. This individual came to counseling hoping for answers to questions that had eluded him for years. Jacob talked about procrastinating, avoiding routine tasks, isolating and drinking too much. Jacob’s therapist helped him to see that his avoidance of daily tasks was in place to keep him safe from self and other judgement if he didn’t do well enough. Jacob worked in therapy on building healthy self-esteem from the ground up. His therapist was there every step of the way as Jacob learned to truly accept himself which transformed his ability to take on life tasks without the fear of not measuring up. Jacob had great success in therapy and regrated not starting therapy earlier.

Adria:

This client had moved to the Beaverton area from the east coast and was looking for a fresh start. Adria’s main goal for therapy was to understand her past patterns in relationships in hopes of not repeating them in the future. She worked with her therapist and found that she was simply repeating an old dynamic learned in her family of origin. Adria’s family had never truly supported her and she responded by seeking support and acceptance from unhealthy partners. Adria had this to say about her therapy: “It was like a light going on when I learned that I was picking partners that seemed like they really supported me, but weren’t actually there for me.” “My therapist showed me what real support would look like in a healthy relationship.” “I feel like I am so much better equipped to find a good partner for the future and counseling played a huge role in that.”

Joanna and Brett T.

Brett contacted our office in need of couples counseling. He stated he was “at the end of my rope” with his relationship and needed change or he was planning to file for divorce. Brett was missing out on feeling connected with his partner and reported that the couple hadn’t had sex for over 6 months.

The start of therapy helped Bret and Joanna to uncover what each saw as missing in their relationship. The couple talked about what was holding them back and their therapist gave them insights as to why each had grown more and more distant from the other. Joanna learned that the relationship she witnessed as a child came to be her expectations for her own relationship. She had prioritized safety and stability above all else (much like her parents did) and spent little time or energy on emotionally and physical closeness.

Brett was helped to see that the more he pulled away in protest of Joanna’s distance, the more she felt unsafe and then distanced herself. This couple, like many others, learned that they were each contributing to the issues individually and their individual contributions led to relationship dysfunction. Once this couple worked on clearing up their individual stances, they were able to operate much differently with each other. At the end of therapy both partners reported that things were much better than either thought they could be.

Collin M.

Collin started therapy to work on improving his relationships with his wife, his siblings, and his young daughter. Collin noted that he felt like he was trying very hard to please those around him, but was coming up short. The more he tried to keep everyone happy, the more he felt helpless and depressed.

Collin worked with his therapist on seeing how his early experiences in his family of origin played a huge part in his people-pleasing. His family dynamic was a cold and critical mother constantly telling him he was not doing well enough while Collin tried hard to meet her expectations. Collin saw that he had tied his sense of self-worth to how those around him treated him. If everyone was happy with him he felt at ease, but if even one person in his life was unhappy with him, Collin struggled.

Much of the work for Collin was learning to view himself in a new light. He worked hard on separating his worth and value from the appraisals he received from others. Collin was able to work with his therapist to build a new method for measuring worth and value. At the end of therapy Collin had a completely new and healthier sense of self-esteem. He was able to disconnect from the expectations of others, set limits with family, and was not impacted negatively by those around him. Collin ended therapy with a totally new perspective and way to view himself that will bode well for him in all his relationships.  

Courtney S.

Courtney started individual therapy due to being deeply dissatisfied in her marriage. She had been married to her husband for 15 years, had 2 young children with him, and was feeling very checked out of the relationship. Courtney’s goals for therapy were to figure what the source of her unhappiness and to make changes in her life to boost her mood and sense of optimism.

With the help of her therapist Courtney quickly learned that she had learned to swallow her voice and set aside her needs for those around her. As a child, Courtney’s younger brother had severe medical issues and then passed away when Courtney was only 9 years old. Courtney’s therapist showed her that the family dynamic of having a sick sibling that required a ton of attention and then dealing with grieving parents left her adapting to have few needs of her own and to not make waves as her family system was stressed to the max.

Courtney was able to connect her behavior in her marriage to her behavior as a child. She had forgone a career of her own and had moved many times to be supportive of her husband’s career. The more she ignored her own needs the more resentful and distant she became. Individual counseling helped Courtney to connect to her own needs, develop a healthy way to voice, them and gave her the push to make life changes. At the end of her therapy Courtney was pursuing a new career, had developed new social supports, and was feeling much more optimistic about her future.

FAQs

Where are you located?

Douglas Counseling is Located in Lake Oswego in the Lake Grove area. The address is 16325 Boones Ferry Rd. Suite 209, Lake Oswego OR, 97035

What are your hours?

Our Hours are Monday – Friday 9am to 7pm

How many sessions will I need to attend?

The number of sessions needed varies and will be discussed with you by your therapist as part of your initial appointment. Most couples can expect a full course of therapy to last about 12 sessions. Individuals can usually expect to meet between 10-12 meetings.

How much do the sessions cost?

The cost depends on the therapist you work with.

Licensed therapist at the associate level: The initial 90-minute session cost is $220 and ongoing 60-minute sessions cost $180.

Licensed therapist at the owner level: The initial 90-minute session cost of $275 and ongoing 60-minute sessions cost $225.

Do you take insurance?

We do not directly accept insurance. Most insurance companies will not reimburse for couples counseling as they don’t consider it a “medical necessity.” Individuals with “out of network” benefits for counseling are welcomed to submit a statement that Douglas Counseling can provide to be reimbursed for a portion of the therapy costs.

What’s the best way to schedule an appointment?

The best way to schedule a session is to call the Douglas Counseling office directly at (503) 388-6611. You can schedule a session or set up a free consultation with one of our therapists.

Do you provide virtual appointments?

Yes, Douglas Counseling provides virtual/online appointments to all clients residing in Oregon. We use a secure telehealth platform for our online sessions.

About Beaverton, Oregon

Beaverton is located in Washington County, Oregon with a small portion of the city bordering Portland. The population was 97,494 as of 2020, making it the 2^nd most populated city in Washington County and the 7th most populous city in Oregon. Beaverton’s population makes it the 7^th most populous city in Oregon. Beaverton covers 19.7 square miles (51 km²). The city is located along the eastern edge of the Tualatin Valley just west of the Tualatin Mountains. It is bordered by Portland to the east, Hillsboro to the west, and Tigard to the south. (Source: Wikipedia)

Beaverton contains a large number of families that enjoy many of the highlights that the city offers. Beaverton has highly rated public schools, nearby activities, and close proximity to the greater Portland metro area. Beaverton residents deal with many of the stresses of modern couples and family including financial stress, home/work life balance, parenting, and finding time to nurture their relationship.

Notable neighborhoods in Beaverton include: Central Beaverton, Raleigh West, Five Oaks, Triple Creek, Greenway, Highland, Neighbors Southwest, Sexton Mountain, South Beaverton, Vose, West Beaverton, and West Slope.

The Douglas Counseling Office is located just south and east of Beaverton in the town of Lake Oswego. Our office is a 15-20-minute drive for most Beaverton residents.

Important landmarks in Beaverton include:

• Beaverton Farmer’s Market
• BG’s Food Cartel
• Cooper Mountain Nature Park
• Cooper Mountain Vineyards
• Hyland Forest Park
• Patricia Reser Center for the Arts

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